The Path to Forgetting the Self
Teachings from Teacher Practitioner Xia Lianju
The Gateway to
To forget is to enter the state of no-self. Only when one reaches this state of no-self—where the ego no longer dictates one's actions—does one have the genuine opportunity to realise one's true nature. If you constantly cling to your ego, and if your sense of 'I' appears at every turn, it becomes nearly impossible to find a moment of true self-forgetfulness. You are essentially living in a world where the ego is the master, and as long as this 'I' remains, the opportunity for is lost.
When the ego becomes greater than the Buddha, and greater than the needs of all beings, your practice will not only stagnate but will begin to regress. You will find yourself creating new negative , which pulls you back into the cycle of rebirth and leads to the inevitable suffering of . How, then, can one truly learn to forget the self?
The Deep Roots of the Ego
The 'self' is rooted so deeply within every person—within your heart, your mind, and even within your very spirit. This sense of 'I' has been stored in your for countless aeons. Because it has been there for so long, it feels like an inseparable part of who you are. How can you possibly let go of something that has defined your existence for so many lifetimes?
The answer lies in the total immersion in the Buddha. When your heart contains nothing else—no 'other' and no 'self'—but is filled entirely with the presence of Namo Amituofo, you begin to transcend the ego. You must ensure that your chanting of the Buddha-name is continuous, flowing like a river without interruption. Do not think of anything else; think only of the Buddha.
as the Catalyst
Compassion is the key to this transformation. When you truly see the suffering of all beings, you will naturally develop the willingness to let go of your ego. You will be ready to:
- Let go of your physical body and its attachments.
- Let go of all your worldly possessions.
- Let go of the 'self' entirely, leaving room only for the Buddha.
The Buddha acts for the sake of all beings, not for the sake of a personal 'self.' Therefore, when you act with the same compassion as the Buddha, you are no longer acting for yourself, but for the benefit of all.
The Wisdom of Relying on
True Wisdom, or Prajna, allows you to understand that the 'self' never truly existed in the first place. If the self is fundamentally empty, how can there even be a need to 'forget' it? However, because of our deep-seated confusion, we perceive a self, and this perceived self becomes our greatest obstacle. We must recognise that we need to forget the self, abandon the self, and ultimately realise the truth of no-self.
We must also acknowledge that the power of our ego is immense; it is the very force that drives the ocean of karma in the cycle of rebirth. Only the power of the Buddha can save us from this. Therefore, you must hold tightly to the Buddha, for only the Buddha can provide the salvation you seek. You must be diligent in your practice:
- Do not allow your mind to become scattered or distracted.
- Do not allow the ego to take hold of your thoughts.
- Do not allow yourself to stray from the Buddha.
- Focus your mind solely on the Buddha, and in doing so, you will naturally forget the self.
Diligently practising the chanting of Namo Amituofo, performing prostrations, and reciting the Sutras are the most effective remedies for forgetting the self. Namo Amituofo.
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