Individuals who are prone to anger and irritability often carry a fierce and intimidating expression. People naturally tend to keep their distance from them, as they do not wish to be near such volatile energy. Conversely, those who are considerate, gentle, and polite in their interactions are naturally well-liked, and others are drawn to them with warmth and affection. We must ask ourselves: which type of person do you wish to be? Furthermore, which type of person would you prefer to be around?
By putting yourself in another person's shoes, you will quickly realise the direction in which you need to improve. For those of us who are practitioners, this is even more critical. We must maintain a high level of awareness. Within our own bodies, we carry immeasurable and boundless numbers of cellular spirits and beings. It is our duty to guide them toward repentance and goodness, moving steadily in the direction of purity and kindness. Only by doing so can we hope to rediscover our true self and reach the state of awakened being.
The Tragedy of the Burning Forest
The phrase, the fire that consumes the forest of merit, describes a truly regrettable occurrence. It refers to the merit we have diligently and painstakingly accumulated through our daily practice, which can be destroyed in a single moment of rage. Whether you are the one who starts the fire or you are merely caught in the flames ignited by another, the result is the same. Whether the fire is smouldering quietly or burning with a fierce, uncontrollable intensity, the negative has already been created, and you will inevitably suffer the evil consequences.
Sometimes, a fire of confusion arises so suddenly that we lose all control over ourselves. We may find ourselves unable to understand why a trivial matter could cause such a surge of anger to overwhelm our hearts, changing our facial expression and setting our entire being ablaze. In such moments, we are no longer in control of our own actions. We are being led by our karma, and we have allowed our or attached spirits to take the lead, causing us to say and do things that ultimately harm our own path.
The Roots of the Blazing Fire
When a practitioner finds that their practice is not yielding the expected results, it is often because they have allowed anger to manifest. We must examine the root causes of this inner fire:
Ego-attachment: We hold onto our own views and opinions tightly, refusing to let go when we encounter situations that do not align with our expectations.
Rigid Standards: We demand that others meet our personal standards and are quick to point out the faults of others.
Conflict of Interest: We become angry when our personal interests are challenged, or when we face disagreements and differing perspectives.
Resistance to Reality: We feel frustrated when others do not accept our opinions or when events do not unfold according to our desires.
Inability to Adapt: Sudden changes in our environment can leave us feeling overwhelmed, which then transforms into resentment and anger.
Interference: When we are in the company of others, their words or behaviours may disturb our peace, and we react with immediate irritation.
Lack of Patience: We have not yet achieved the perfection of Patience.
Extinguishing the Flames of Discord
If you find yourself being drawn into the flames of another person's anger, you must understand why this happens. Often, it is because we are provoked by the other party and fail to leave the situation in time, or we respond with sharp words and arguments, which only fuels the fire. To prevent the fire from spreading, we must take proactive steps:
The Power of Retreat: One party must be willing to step back and leave the situation, or at least stop the actions that are fueling the conflict.
and Tolerance: Use your Wisdom and compassion to tolerate the other person, which can effectively extinguish their fire.
Redirecting Focus: Consciously shift your attention to other tasks to break the cycle of negative interaction.
The Practice of : For those who chant the Buddha's name, you should engage in chanting, making prostrations, reciting the Sutras, listening to the , or writing calligraphy. These acts help to subdue and stop the rising tide of deluded thoughts.
The Stillness of the Awakened Heart
We must continue to practise diligently so that our meditative concentration becomes strong. We must reach a state where we are not easily shaken by external circumstances, remaining unmoved, and possessing the ability to transform our environment and our own hearts. A practitioner must be skilled in using kind words and maintaining a kind heart. We must be clearly aware of every thought and intention that arises within us.
By maintaining a sensitive awareness of the changes occurring both within ourselves and in our surroundings, we can respond to any situation with appropriate grace and Wisdom. In all times and in all places, we should strive to remain in a state of stillness, treating all people and all things with a heart of compassion and Wisdom. This is the only way to avoid the tragedy of burning down our forest of merit. When we fall short, we must deeply reflect, repent, and adjust ourselves in the shortest possible time, ensuring that we do not repeat the same mistakes again.
Recorded by the Buddha's disciple, Venerable HaiZe.
